PLATONIC LOVE AND WHY IT NEEDS TO BE REPRESENTED MORE OFTEN IN BOOKS

Why is that I can’t seem to read a book without a hero and heroine making googly eyes at each other? While I do love my healthy sinnamon romantics, I still groan at romance in books. Like, why? Can we just overthrow the patriarchy without attachments?

Okay, okay, perhaps I’m going a bit too far. But let’s face it, romance and its representation in books tend to be eschewed. Love is always interpreted as raging hormones and sex, rarely do we read of it in its most simple and innocent form. This type of representation is harmful for any reader – adult and teens. Firstly, it erases asexuality. Secondly, it sends a message that a relationship cannot thrive without an entire commitment of body and soul. That we only ever belong to one person.

WHY DO WE NEED MORE PLATONIC LOVE IN BOOKS?

LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND 

It’s true but this does not necessarily mean it should be romantic love! Love is allowed to exist in the smallest gestures. Throughout the course of your life we come across many people who we’ve come to love. A wedding band is just as important as friendship bracelet. That a vow need not be said at the altar to bind two souls.

IT TEACHES US OF A LOVE BEYOND SEX

By understanding this, we soon learn how to nourish and care for another without even having to touch them. It shows that intimacy is not reserved for sex alone.

LOVE IS NOT AN EMOTION

And finally, when we uplift platonic love we show that love is not a constant emotion but are an amalgamation of our intentions, our actions, and our words. Imagine love as a taspestry woven from acts like staying up at night with a depressed friend, buying lunch for your sibling, helping a coworker move. It laughter, humility, generosity, and protectiveness woven into a blanket to keep the two of your warm.

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BOOKS WHICH UPLIFT PLATONIC LOVE & FOUND FAMILY

The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

Happily by Chauncey Rogers 📚

Ink and Bone by Rachel Caine

Our Bloody Pearl by D.N. Bryn 📚

No Sad Songs by Frank Morelli  📚

Tradition by Brendan Kiely 📚

How We Learned to Lie by Meredith Miller 📚

Kingdom of the Blazing Phoenix by Julie C. Dao 📚

Spinning Silver by Naomi Novik 📚

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40 thoughts on “PLATONIC LOVE AND WHY IT NEEDS TO BE REPRESENTED MORE OFTEN IN BOOKS

  1. liveforbroadway says:

    Did I just read your post and nod my head SO HARD to everything you said about platonic love, and romance in books being TIRING? Yes. Great list. I am literally smiling so widely by you starting with The Velveteen Rabbit. Thanks for sharing.

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  2. lucysnovelpurpose says:

    I agree we need more platonic love in books! I groan at romance too, especially when it’s not really needed in a book or when it’s just thrown in there in the middle of a life threatening scenario 😂

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  3. aznorton says:

    I couldn’t possibly agree more. I love books and film equally, and I find myself getting irritated at the constant wash of dreckish romantic content increasingly being dropped into my entertainment because they think that’s what people want (maybe most do…I don’t, especially if it’s not necessary to the plot).

    My writing emphasizes the love and relationships between ‘found family’ and friends for just that reason. I found it missing from most of the stories available out there, and you know what they say…write the book you want to read.

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  4. PerfectlyTolerable says:

    I love romance in books, but I can see what you are saying and agree there should prolly be more books without it. I just got done reading Vicious, and while I definately wouldn’t call it uplifting, I loved the relationship dynamics that had nothing to do with romantic love at all!

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  5. Fanna says:

    This post is THE POST! Absolutely loved reading your thoughts on platonic relationships especially since I agree on each and every point that you mentioned. Always showcasing sexually intimate and attraction in relationships rules out the asexuals and doesn’t give the much needed depth in a character’s relationship. So I definitely agree with the need for more platonic relationships. Great post, Cam! ❤

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    • Cam @ Camillea Reads says:

      Ah, thank you, Fanna. Your comment is very insightful: “Always showcasing sexually intimate and attraction in relationships rules out the asexuals and doesn’t give the much needed depth in a character’s relationship.” This is something, I believe, many publishers and writers need to understand. Love has so many forms that it’s impossible to limit it to just romance!

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  6. Diana @ Thoughts on Papyrus says:

    I completely agree. There should definitely be more platonic love relationships in books. It seems that everyone thinks that if there is no sex it is not “cool” enough for readers or the public, or whatever. This attitude should be combated. Sweetness and innocence rule, and it does not necessarily mean sentimentality and rolling eyes. As for characters, it is the passion they feel inside which counts that may not necessarily translate to physical contact.

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    • Cam @ Camillea Reads says:

      This is such a lovely and thoughtful comment! Passion and love come in so many forms that it feels almost disrespectful to limit them to just sex. I also dislike how media and books shape love into a grand gesture when that is just not the case!

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