Why is that I can’t seem to read a book without a hero and heroine making googly eyes at each other? While I do love my healthy sinnamon romantics, I still groan at romance in books. Like, why? Can we just overthrow the patriarchy without attachments?
Okay, okay, perhaps I’m going a bit too far. But let’s face it, romance and its representation in books tend to be eschewed. Love is always interpreted as raging hormones and sex, rarely do we read of it in its most simple and innocent form. This type of representation is harmful for any reader – adult and teens. Firstly, it erases asexuality. Secondly, it sends a message that a relationship cannot thrive without an entire commitment of body and soul. That we only ever belong to one person.
WHY DO WE NEED MORE PLATONIC LOVE IN BOOKS?
LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND
It’s true but this does not necessarily mean it should be romantic love! Love is allowed to exist in the smallest gestures. Throughout the course of your life we come across many people who we’ve come to love. A wedding band is just as important as friendship bracelet. That a vow need not be said at the altar to bind two souls.
IT TEACHES US OF A LOVE BEYOND SEX
By understanding this, we soon learn how to nourish and care for another without even having to touch them. It shows that intimacy is not reserved for sex alone.
LOVE IS NOT AN EMOTION
And finally, when we uplift platonic love we show that love is not a constant emotion but are an amalgamation of our intentions, our actions, and our words. Imagine love as a taspestry woven from acts like staying up at night with a depressed friend, buying lunch for your sibling, helping a coworker move. It laughter, humility, generosity, and protectiveness woven into a blanket to keep the two of your warm.
BOOKS WHICH UPLIFT PLATONIC LOVE & FOUND FAMILY
The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams
Ink and Bone by Rachel Caine
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